Harry Chapin’s 1978 album Living Room Suite is an interesting study of a man devoted to his family while at the same time recognizing that being a musician/troubadour would keep him away from home for extended periods of time. Unlike pretty much all of his other albums, he mostly eschews the storytelling style of songs that marked his too-short career.
The best-known songs from this album are I Wonder What Would Happen to this World, a reworking of a song from his off-broadway show Cotton Patch Gospel and which is quoted on his tombstone, and Flowers are Red, the one true story song on the album and an indictment of an educational system that stresses conformity and not creativity. Pretty much every song on this album qualifies as a “deep track” of his.
So you can certainly be forgiven if you’re not familiar with a song from this album called Why Do Little Girls, which is an indictment of gender roles imposed on our children at too young an age. I personally like this song a fair bit even if the lyrics of the bridge have a cringeworthy description of menstruation whose metaphor is about as subtle as an anvil. In concert, he would talk about his daughter, who was seven years old when the album came out, and how for her sake and all of our daughters, it was imperative that we pass the ERA.
I thought of that song when I took my son to see the Barbie movie this past weekend. I have long maintained that, although the patriarchy does bestow upon me a certain amount of privilege by virtue of me being a man, in the end, it does a disservice to both men and women by forcing us into expectations that are neither realistic nor practical. And that disservice far outweighs any benefits I might reap through that privilege.
The patriarchy can’t go away soon enough. Thus I, like Harry Chapin before me, would embrace a new era when we would be better defined by what’s between our ears, than what’s between our legs.
I walked out of the Barbie movie thinking that it was wonderfully subversive. It embraces every trope — both positive and negative — about the iconic doll, and is a masterwork in showing exactly how detrimental society’s expectations can be, no matter which roles you might play within that society.
I don’t want to spoil anything in the movie, but it is a “worlds collide”-type movie, with the fantasy doll-world being heavily female-dominant (I hesitate to call it matriarchal but only because there’s only one pregnant doll) and the real world being its usual patriarchal self. When “stereotypical Barbie” has to cross between worlds, Ken thinks he can help with her quest and ends up bringing the patriarchy back to the doll-world.
In truth, neither world shown in this movie does any real service or benefit for its citizens (and I mean those citizens who benefit and those who don’t), and the movie does not shy away from this fact. It further acknowledges that in order to rectify past wrongs, it is often necessary to swing the pendulum of privilege further in the opposite direction than we might want or prefer.
I have been enjoying reading about the right wing backlash to the movie. Ben Shapiro has outdone himself in his usual inability to see the point. Christian movie review website Movieguide is making the point for its own irrelevance in their reaction to the film. I’m happy watching them continue to defy the basic lesson of the college course of Hole Digging 101 as they continue to put their shovels to use.
Let’s acknowledge that very few works of popular entertainment or art can achieve significant change at the societal level. It does happen, albeit rarely. I don’t think Harry Chapin ever expected that “Why Do Little Girls” would change the world but that didn’t stop him from trying. I think he’d appreciate that Barbie picks up on this fight.